Jenna: People have been asking me if I’m going to take his name. I have complex feelings about this. First of all, I absolutely loathe the patriarchal expectation that a woman should surrender her identity to a man. It's antiquated and antifeminist. Secondly, Steely is the best name! Strong. Like the metal.
The thing is, I would like our family, and future children, to all share a last name. No hyphens, no mess...it's just easier. So I keep telling Thomas that "the Steelys” has such a great ring to it. But I know he won't give in without a fight.
"You know, Steely's just *such* a good name. Strong. Like the metal. F%!# the patriarchy."
– Jenna Steely
Thomas: I see where she’s coming from. I don’t want to force my name on her, but I also would like our family to share a last name. Hey, I’m a progressive guy, but the only way I’d change MY name is if I lost it fair and square. It’s only right to settle this with some good ol’ fashioned competition.
"What's in a name anyway... Would a Thomas Koff by any other name smell as sweet? Probably, but why mess with a good thing."
– Thomas Koff
Spoiler alert, we'll already be married in August (learn why). But we still want to get together with you all to celebrate. And what better way to celebrate than with a high stakes competition?
You, our honored guests, will be facing off in friendly competition to decide for us what our name will be. Pick whichever side you want. Where does your allegiance lie?
We'll play a variety of games, and after we will have a short ceremony. Then we'll eat and party!